IT IS NEVER MY INTENTION TO OFFEND, EVEN WHEN I MAY SPEAK A LITTLE HARSHLY

First let it be understood that you must never be disquieted or annoyed over the observations that I will sometimes have occasion to make. Be well aware it is never my intention to offend, even when I may speak a little harshly.

Letter to Father Jean Baudrand in Canada, 30 September 1849, EO I n 124

REFLECTION

This recalls some of my elders correcting me with the words, “Believe me, this hurts me more than it hurts you!”

Eugene had strong opinions and a direct way of expressing them. Over the years life taught him to be more diplomatic – but with his Oblates he regarded himself as their spiritual father and felt free to say what was in his heart. He was deeply pained himself when he realized that his words had wounded someone. He was always the first to apologize and to express his love for his sons.

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1 Response to IT IS NEVER MY INTENTION TO OFFEND, EVEN WHEN I MAY SPEAK A LITTLE HARSHLY

  1. Eleanor Rabnett, Lay Oblate Associate says:

    O to be perfect and to love so greatly that we will always find a kind way to speak!

    Sometimes we simply mess-up. Yet always we seem to know when we have hurt another, especially when it is someone we love. We might try to erase it in our hearts by telling ourselves that the other deserved it, but that never truly makes us feel better about them or ourselves.

    Eugene is a passionate man, and so he is a passionate founder, father, friend and bishop…, who dared to love greatly without restraints. I realise as I sit here at the knees of him, that I recognize some of his traits within myself. It is not an exercise of measurement or merit. Simply a recognition of some of the traits that we share. It should not be a surprise since I count myself as one of his daughters.

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